This Friday's company activity was to go to have a buffet dinner in a teahouse called "Luhecun". To be frank, I didn't have too much feeling about it and I don't like the buffet very much, for eating too much at a time is pretty harmful to our health. Before this, I had went to a teahouse in my county - that is my first time. I haven't went to the teahouse before that because on one hand it is not so necessary and on the other, it is too expensive for me. My impression to that teahouse is nothing special. It is just a place for people to chat, and even play cards and mahjong - nothing different from other bars and leisure centers.

But this time seemed to be different. As soon as I arrived at the site of the teahouse, I got a little surprised. The style of the building is an typical Hui style architecture, which is unique from the left and brought us an antique flavour. I like this kind of feeling, not because I am a nostalgic person. Tea -tasting is really an art, which is quite different from normal drinking. I didn't like teahouse, because it is not a good place to drink tea. As we all know, Japan is famous for sado ( In fact, Japanese sado is introduced from antient China in Tang dynasty), but we don't know what it is. Actually, sado is really comprehensive, which laid great emphasises on the tea - leaves, water to be used, tea sets, duration of fire as well as the surroundings. Even people's mood is also very important. So I don't think teahouse is suitable to exist in the current world.

In my mind, teahouse is just a stuff that should be only exsit in ancient time, when it was so popular to all kinds of people. The reason why the teahouse was that popular, I guess, is there was not too many other things to drink, so all the people like to go to teahouse. But the situation today is quite different -  we have so many things to drink: mineral water, soda drink, milk, yogurt, juice and so on. Tea is no longer the only choice.

I find that in antient times, tea - drinking can be mainly classified into two different catagories - one is that among the lower class people, which is just for somthing to drinking, and the other is that among the upper class people( those people are mainly government officials and other educated people). The sado is generally developed among the upper class - they have a lot of lesiure time, so they always versify during the tea time and they also make a lot of rules of tea - tasting. Sado was considered as a leisure thing done by people with a good taste. However, people with good taste would not go to a too " modern" teahouse.

I have wrote too much. What I want to say is that this teahouse is quite different from others, it is also a three - star tour site in China - the founder of the teahouse is also a collector of carvings. His collectings include wood carvings, stone carvings and brick sculpture - which is the famous "three carvings". When we taste the tea, we can also appreciate the museum of carvings - this is an unparallel place for tea - tasting.


 

Lantern Festival (In Chinese also Yuanxiao jie) is a traditional Chinese festival which can be dated back to Han dynasty - It has been nearly two thousand years. Lantern Festival is the fifteenth day of the 1st lunar month. Why in China we called it Yuanxiao jie, I think you can find it in many resouces. There is no need for me to mention it here.

During the day of Lantern Festival, there are many different customs. Even in different places of China, the customs are different from each other. But certainly there are somthing in common. For example, During the day, people will eat Tangyuan, hang the lanterns outsite the room and solve riddles on the lanterns and so on. Though the customs may be different, the sybol of the festival is the same - sybol of getting together with the family and friends, for the pronunciation of yuan in Tangyuan is just the same as the pronunciation of Chinese word Tuanyuan, which means being together.

Useually, we have 3 days legal leave in the New Year's Festival. However, in my hometown, people always consider the Lantern Festival as the last day of the New Year's Festival - we call the New Year's Festival nian in Chinese, and the Lantern Festival xiaonian. From this, you can see how inportant the festival is - second only to the New Year's Festival.

Tomorrow is also Monday - the next week's work will began. I was so sad that I can not gather with my family far away. Tonight, when I heard the sound of fireworks (In China, we always set off fireworks during this day), I missed my family more than ever before. This make me think of one Chinese poem "A lonely stranger in a strange land I am cast, I miss my family all the more on every festive day." With these beatiful words, the scene of the Lantern Festivals in my childhood came into my mind:

Those were really carefree ages. In the day, I got up early with my parents and went to the crowd temple - fair. It is said that the earlier you get up, the sencere you are and your wish will have more chances to come true(At that time, the only wish that my family and I prayed for is that in the future I can go to university and have a good job). So every Lantern Festival we got up early to go to the fair. But later the day, I would forgot my wish behind. When the night came, I will take the lantern and play with my little companions around the village.

Those were really memorale time in my life. When we get up gradually, the time for us to gather with our families will become less and less. If you have time, no matter it is a festival of not, no matter you are far away or not, please go home to see your parents and grand -parents.


 

Sometimes, what people did seems quite different from what they thought. They did things without any thinking at the moment, while they'll think a lot after the things were done. Why? I thought the question many times, only one conclusion I've made. That is: We are not real ourselves.

This afternoon, my boss have a talk to me. She said that the accommodation of the company is not enough, and because I haven't graduate yet, so I may need to move to live in my school dormitory (that can be accepted, no problem!). What's more, due to that I studied in a local university, they can not give me the housing allowance. I asked why - she said this is a new regulation of the company (this cannot be accepted at all!). Then, I didn't say anything and I accepted the result. However, I feel very depressed afterwards. You told me that employees who don't live in the company accommodation would have a housing allowance, why do you regret now? There are so many new graduates in the company, why do this happen to me, not others? So many "question mark" filled in my mind the whole afternoon.

Since my boss's words made me so unhappy and agonizing, why didn't I tell her my ideas directely? (To be frank, I really can't understand how can I accept her requirements even without saying anything!) Maybe I considered too much at that time. I had long been made to accept things silently - just change things that can be changed, leave alone ones that cannot be changed, and in China, this is an old tradition - to say no to others is really a hard thing. If you do this, you will be considered to be too realistic or materialistic. In China, we advocate the notion that "people do great works don't care about small issues". So we don't like to say "no" to others, especially when it needs to give up our own interstes. Say "no" to others is considered to be a kind of losing face. We do afraid of losing face, aren't we?

As a matter of fact, most people who give up their own interests for the sake of others will regret or unhappy afterwards. In this case, please do not do that, that's OK! I think we are not living truly. We fear to express our true ideas. To be a true man, at least we should express our true feelings - just call a spade a spade. What you said may make others not happy at the moment, but if you do things you don't want to, you may be unhappy for a long time. In addition, if people know that you cheated them, they will be even more unhappy.